Hi from Australia

[maplegum]

I feel kind of silly posting on the forum as I don't even own a Labradoodle.

My story goes something like this.

2 years ago, we had to put my husbands dog down. She had traveled from Canada a few years prior when my husband moved to Australia. She lived a great life and was PTS at 18, almost 19 years of age.

My husband has been against another dog since she was PTS. He keeps telling me he is not ready. But, I am. I was never close to his dog, she was the kind of dog that kept her distance, she did not allow cuddles or anyone to really form a strong bond with her other than my husband. He was VERY attached to her to the point where I often felt like the 3rd wheel in the cog, a strange feeling.

Anyway, I have been wanting a dog that we can raise together and the kids who are now 14 and 17 would love to have a family dog too. We have a country property with loads of room for a dog.

My research began about 18 months ago. I started by looking into Spoodles (poodle x cocker spaniel) and although i still LOVE this mix my direction has now changed. I attended puppy school with my girlfriend and her labradore puppy and noticed a beautiful Labradoodle that belonged to the trainer. I fell in love. She was an F1 mix.

So, I started my research (research junkie here) and read lots regarding the development of the breed. I have decided that I would like a multi generation Labradoodle through an accredited breeder. More expensive than buying elsewhere but atleast I know I am buying from someone with the breeds best interest at heart.

I already know what colour and sex and coat type I'm looking for. I'd love a 'golden female', fleece coat, medium size. I even dream about this puppy. I'd call her "Jessie" after my lovely grandmother who has given me some money that I have put aside for my 'doggy dream'.

I have had to stop asking and talking about getting a dog as now my husband has become quite opposed to it. The more I talk about it, the more he puts this wall and barrier up and won't even discuss the idea. I think i will drop the topic for a while and just continue researching. I would not even consider getting a dog without my husbands approval. I know he can't say 'no' forever and I won't accept 'no' forever.

Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? My heart aches to have a family dog.

[daking]

I have, and well, even though it wasn't the whole reason, it was the starting of a crumbling relationship. She didn't want a dog, I did, eventually I got her to cave. We got a dog, then 3 years later we got another, and 7 months after that I was kicked out and my ex is now dating her boss (classy I know), but in the long run, I definitley feel that a dog was a contributing factor since the WHOLE family was not on the same page. It could cause stress, and a spike in the relationship. You could be stuck with everything and will cause stress to everyone. Or it could be ok and nothing to worry!
If he isn't ready,find out why. Respect what he says and work with him on the reasons why you would like one.

[deepnite10]

speaking on behalf of the dog..

a split attitude on another dog would only harm the development of the the new dog..not to mention your relationship..

not knowing all the circumstances why your husband is opposed to another dog, i would hesitate what advise i could offer..since im on my second marriage

my wife now just loves dogs..we had 2 and she was opposed to a third..
mainly she was concern d whether we could adequetly care for another dog..but, since my retirement we did get Toby..and there have no regrets from either of us..in the past 3 yrs since Toby has been here..we ve added 4 other dogs to the home..

[lindamarie]

It's called "marriage" where two become one.......but that doesn't mean our minds are always on the same page.
I think we, as couples, go through this on various levels and one either has to give in our forever hold your peace.
Your husband sounds like he's pretty much set against a dog and this will be a tough one to overcome.
Sometimes a spouse doesn't understand the real intense needs of the other. An argument sure isn't the cure for this problem and it sounds like you're keeping your cool. That doesn't mean ya can't turn on the charm, however.
I really hope it works out for you. With all the research and planning you have done even down to the name.......I feel for you!

[maplegum]

Thanks for the comments everyone. It's really difficult being in this situation. To be honest with you, and myself, I doubt there will be a puppy in my life anytime soon. I will just have to keep visiting this website and get my fix that way.

[bauer5152]

What's up everyone, I'm new to the forum and just wanted to say hey. Hopefully I posted this in the right section!

[lindamarie]

Just curious, bauer......what's the point of the ad I'm about to delete?
Do you have a doodle, or just searching the web for friends?

You're very welcome here, but we expect your interest to be in the area of dogs, ya know what I'm sayin'?

[Jecinta]

Welcome maplegum!
Im from Western Australia!
Are u?

[bella10388]

What's up everyone, I'm new to the forum and just wanted to say hey. Hopefully I posted this in the right section!